Why An Infertile Mother Turned to Traditional Surrogacy

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This story written and submitted by Debbe from AllAboutSurrogacy.com

surrogacyPCOS and Infertility

Due to PCOS, I’ve always known it would be difficult for me to have kids. For a long time, my husband and I didn’t want kids. Then, in December 2002 we thought I had gotten pregnant. Turns out we were probably right, but that pregnancy didn’t stick around. Went to a doctor and found out I’ve probably gotten pregnant lots of times but just didn’t know it.

About six months later, we decided to see an RE. Through pre-IVF testing, we found out I also had extreme immune issues. The protocol recommended to us was too extreme for us. For almost a year, dh and I researched adoption – first domestic, then international. Finally, dh told me he just couldn’t do it. The more he read, the more he realized he just couldn’t go through all the scrutiny that comes along with the adoption process.

John asked me to consider surrogacy. This was a Friday night in July. By Sunday, I was fully on board! I spent nearly two days on the internet researching. The one thing I couldn’t understand was how a woman could carry a baby, then give it to another couple? As an infertile woman trying with all her might to have a child, it’s not surprising to think this way.


 Choosing Surrogacy

Then the light bulb went off. I read stories written by surrogates about their journeys and why they do the most wonderful thing that they do. Tears welled up in my eyes thinking that there were indeed angels on earth. Still happens every time I think about it.

John and I then talked about what we were looking for in a surrogate. It was important to me to have someone close because I want to be involved in every little doctor’s appointment, and I want to be there if our TS needed any help at all. I want to build a close relationship that will continue past our surrogacy. I want to have a connection with our TS so that we can become friends. All this was far more important to me than what our surrogate looked like. We also wanted to find someone whose fees we could afford. We did have a big range as we planned on spending $30,000 on adoption. Ideally, we wanted someone with experience.


Our Surrogate Arrived

Less than a month after we turned to surrogacy, we found our angel! She posted an ad on SMO and I answered it right away. It was just before I left for a business trip. Many times during the day I would go to my hotel room and check my email. As this TS was also on a business trip, it took a few days before I heard back from her. We were a match! We spent a few weeks emailing each other, then talking on the phone a couple of times, before we met. We both knew before we even met that we were a match…

Read more of Debbe’s inspirational story here: http://www.allaboutsurrogacy.com/articles_files/whytssurrogacy.htm


This story written and submitted by Debbe

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